This morning I thought I'd share something from my journal as I'm raising awareness on the importance of doula work and being of service to others --
Even in our carefully ordered and controlled lives which have been built out of our best dysfunctional building blocks, life is so constructed to present us with many opportunities to be of service. Being of service can be as simple as holding a birthing woman's hand reassuring her that she has what it takes to breathe through this next contraction, preparing a nutritious meal for her when she is trying to figure out her new life and when everyone else is too tired, or stopping along the shopping aisle to help a pregnant mama decide which formula to select.
Being of service as a doula requires us to be aware of and participate in every step of her pregnancy, birth, and postpartum experience. It requires us not to fall into the illusion that we are there to fix, solve, or cure, but simply experience the journey with her so she is not fully alone. It requires us to be aware of her needs so that we can participate in it as fully as possible.
There is a saying, "What goes around, comes around." Often what is meant by this saying is that we reap what we sow, or what we do to others will come back to haunt us. And this saying can also mean that the useful service we provide will return tenfold.
I recognize each and every struggle I've experienced has prepared me in some fashion as prepared me for this role of serving other women in a very vulnerable time of their lives. We are suffering as a human race because we have weakened our ability to truly be of service to those who bring life earthside.
What my most recent birth has taught me, specifically birth in hospital settings, we cannot truly perform a service when we have an agenda. I deeply believe that when we are being of service out of our core, the return is always different and better than we expected.
This is a time for all of us to maintain social distancing and be mindful of how our actions are affecting to collective. You deserve to feel safe, empowered, and prepared for the journey ahead.
If you are expecting or know someone who is expecting in the coming months I encourage you to consider all of your options and openly discuss your options with a doula or a midwife. We are independently contracted by you not the hospital and so are able to offer our services in and outside of the hospital setting during this ever so vulnerable time.
Next week I will be going live right here on Facebook with a local midwife to share with you what home birth is like, what the role of a midwife is and how a doula can make a lasting impact on your emotional and psychosocial and physical wellbeing.